How to deal with irresponsible "transcendental" parents?
Social · asked by user [] · 2008-06-24 · 5 answers
I see a trend.
Devotees that have children, who are in their 40s or above and behave like they are singles or brahmacaris.
For example. A mother with children who behaves as being transcendental and their children are neglected.
The children are hungry but she is busy reading or on a japa walk.
She thinks: The children are under the modes, i am not. I dont want to get entangled...
or the typical father who is on srila prabhupadas mission to save the world travelling everywhere but never at home.
Have you seen similar examples?
What is the cause?
What is the solution?
It is difficult to deal with this because who are you to tell anyone how to raise their children?
Devotees that have children, who are in their 40s or above and behave like they are singles or brahmacaris.
For example. A mother with children who behaves as being transcendental and their children are neglected.
The children are hungry but she is busy reading or on a japa walk.
She thinks: The children are under the modes, i am not. I dont want to get entangled...
or the typical father who is on srila prabhupadas mission to save the world travelling everywhere but never at home.
Have you seen similar examples?
What is the cause?
What is the solution?
It is difficult to deal with this because who are you to tell anyone how to raise their children?
user [154] · 2008-06-24
So many examples. Both in devotee world and not. Where to start at the Wall street or in New Vrindavana? I suggest that any parent that gave their child to an Indian Gurukula was irresponsible like a child. I will however not be critical of a mother who would read when the children are hungry, that is not necessarily the sign of neglect, so one should be careful there. I prefer looking into myself; and for myself, I know that I will not neglect my children materially, but may disappoint them spiritually... that would be my first worry = Solution is good association as always. Cause = bad association as always.user [19] · 2008-06-26
but they set a bad example and I have seen it many times and basically you cant do anything. The situations where i saw that some comment was made ended up in heavy conflict.user [154] · 2008-06-26
You should promote good examples instead and encourage, yes comments or critique will not work. That is a meaning of good association.user [38] · 2008-06-26
Manu 11:9. (If) an opulent man (is) liberal towards strangers, while his family lives in distress, that counterfeit virtue will first make him taste the sweets (of fame, but afterwards) make him swallow the poison (of punishment in hell).
10. If (a man) does anything for the sake of his happiness in another world, to the detriment of those whom he is bound to maintain, that produces evil results for him, both while he lives and when he is dead.
May not be fully applicable to devotees though but the idea is clear.
user [2] · 2008-06-26
If you know the devotee is open and friendly, tell him straight with love and concern, asking him about the particular.Sometimes, parents cannot see everything a child does, they cant be everywhere at all times and the devotee should thank you if you deal with genuine concern, not to just put down the parent.
If the parent is really irresponsible, the response could be even violent and there is little you can do, pray to Krishna for their well being.